What Is the Shadow?
The “shadow” is a term from psychology that means the parts of ourselves we push away. These might be things like anger, jealousy, fear, or even deep sadness. But the shadow isn’t bad, it’s just the part of you that has been misunderstood, rejected, or ignored. The shadow is also known as the unconscious self, the inner critic, our emotional baggage, or even the inner demons we try to hide.
A Helpful Metaphor
Imagine carrying a backpack full of things you didn’t know you packed. It gets heavy over time. Shadow work is like slowly opening the bag, looking inside, and gently deciding what needs your attention, love, or release.
Why This Matters for Latinx Healing
Many Latinx people grew up being told to stay quiet, stay strong, or not make trouble. You might have heard:
“No llores. Don’t cry.”
“Calladita te ves más bonita.”
“Don’t be angry. That’s disrespectful.”
These messages can lead us to hide parts of ourselves that actually need care. Shadow integration helps us notice what we’ve buried and gives us permission to feel, express, and heal.
What Shadow Work Can Look Like:
- Journaling honestly: Write about thoughts or feelings you’re scared to say out loud.
- Noticing triggers: When something upsets you deeply, ask, “What part of me feels unseen here?”
- Self-compassion: Instead of judging your emotions, get curious. Ask, “What does this feeling need from me?”
Shadow Work Isn’t About Blame
It’s not about blaming your culture, parents, or past. It’s about understanding yourself more fully and choosing how to grow with care and honesty.
You are allowed to hold light and shadow. You can be kind and still get angry. You can be joyful and still carry pain. Shadow work is about bringing all of you into the light, so you can live with more truth, wholeness, and peace.
