The Inherited Backpack
Imagine each generation carries a backpack. Some are filled with love, strength, and tradition. Others carry fear, silence, and survival rules. You may not remember packing it, but you feel the weight. Generational healing is about opening that backpack, understanding what’s inside, and choosing what you want to keep or gently set down.
Common Latinx Beliefs Passed Down:
“No hables de lo que pasa en casa.” (Don’t talk about what happens at home.)
“Si lloras, eres débil.” (If you cry, you’re weak.)
“La familia siempre va primero, no importa cómo te sientas.” (Family always comes first, no matter how you feel.)
“Therapy is for people who are crazy.”
These beliefs were often born from struggle, migration, or needing to survive. They were meant to protect but sometimes, they also cause harm.
How Generational Trauma Shows Up:
- Feeling guilty for setting boundaries
- Ignoring your own needs to care for others
- Staying silent to avoid conflict
- Carrying anxiety that doesn’t have a clear cause
Healing Doesn’t Mean Disrespect
Choosing to question these patterns doesn’t mean dishonoring your parents or grandparents. It means recognizing what helped them survive may not be what helps you thrive. You can honor their strength and still heal in new ways.
What You Can Do:
- Notice your inner voice– Is it yours, or something passed down?
- Start small conversations with trusted family or friends about how things were “back then.”
- Choose a new belief– One that supports your growth and peace.
- Seek support– Therapists who understand cultural roots can help you heal without shame.
You carry the strength of your ancestors, but you are not required to carry their pain. Healing generational wounds is an act of love, for yourself, and for those who come after you.
